Did I hear it correctly? Learn to say NO? It is so simple to say NO, why we need to learn to say NO?
Have you come across a situation when your friends invite you to join them for something which they are so excited for and interesting in but it is not for you? The worst thing is that you feel bad to reject them or you are shy to reject them. So you end up forcing yourself to join them but you are not enjoying at all.
Another situation, your boss ask you to do him/her a favor when you are very busy with your assignment or work but you dare not reject him because you are afraid that your increment or bonus will be affected when come to year end appraisal. You end up handling too much job and give yourself a lot of pressure and affect your performance.
You do not like to learn piano but your parent love it so much and force you to take up the piano course and you cannot disobey your parent so you end up giving up your drawing course to make them happy but you are not happy at all.
The worst situation is that you promise too many people to do something for them but eventually you are not able to meet their requirement because you are too busy or you forgot and they got angry with you because you did not keep your promise.
All situations above happen because you do not know when to say NO and how to say NO. Those children who brought up by parent who are autocratic tend to have this problem because they were trained to say yes only.
So, when to say NO?
Say NO when you have a feeling that you are not happy and not willing to say YES.
How to say NO?
Say it politely follow by your reason.
NOW please do me a favor, tell everyone you know about my blog. Try not to say NO to me.
Also share your experience here if you have any.
Have you come across a situation when your friends invite you to join them for something which they are so excited for and interesting in but it is not for you? The worst thing is that you feel bad to reject them or you are shy to reject them. So you end up forcing yourself to join them but you are not enjoying at all.
Another situation, your boss ask you to do him/her a favor when you are very busy with your assignment or work but you dare not reject him because you are afraid that your increment or bonus will be affected when come to year end appraisal. You end up handling too much job and give yourself a lot of pressure and affect your performance.
You do not like to learn piano but your parent love it so much and force you to take up the piano course and you cannot disobey your parent so you end up giving up your drawing course to make them happy but you are not happy at all.
The worst situation is that you promise too many people to do something for them but eventually you are not able to meet their requirement because you are too busy or you forgot and they got angry with you because you did not keep your promise.
All situations above happen because you do not know when to say NO and how to say NO. Those children who brought up by parent who are autocratic tend to have this problem because they were trained to say yes only.
So, when to say NO?
Say NO when you have a feeling that you are not happy and not willing to say YES.
How to say NO?
Say it politely follow by your reason.
NOW please do me a favor, tell everyone you know about my blog. Try not to say NO to me.
Also share your experience here if you have any.
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